How to Ask for Money as a Wedding Gift: Polite Wording for Cash, Shagun, UPI and Honeymoon Funds

The polite way to ask for money is to put it on your wedding website or invitation details page — not on the invitation card itself — and to word it as a gentle option: "Your presence is the greatest gift; if you'd like to give something, a contribution to our honeymoon would be warmly appreciated." Below are examples for honeymoon funds, house funds, shagun and digital payments.

Where should you mention cash gifts?

On a separate details page or wedding website, never on the formal invitation card. Emily Post's invitation dos and don'ts keep registry and gift information off the invitation, and their registry etiquette says a registry link on your website is fine as long as it isn't the most prominent thing on it.

Place	Mention gifts?	How
The invitation card	No	Names, date, venue, RSVP only
Wedding website / invitation details page	Yes, briefly	A short, optional line with the fund or payment details
Word of mouth	Yes	Parents and close friends tell guests who ask
Shower or party invitation	Sometimes	Registry details may go with it, not on it

Emily Post's guide to registries adds that cash gifts are long accepted, that word of mouth is the classic way to share the wish, and that it's kind to keep one traditional registry for guests who'd rather buy a gift.

What's polite wording for a honeymoon or house fund?

Lead with thanks for their presence, then offer the fund as an option. Saying what the money is for makes it feel personal rather than transactional.

• "Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift. If you'd like to give something more, a contribution towards our honeymoon in Italy would be warmly appreciated."
• "Having lived together for a few years, we're lucky to have everything we need. If you wish to give a gift, a contribution to our first-home fund would mean the world."
• "We're saving for our dream trip to Japan — if you'd like to help us get there, details are below. Most of all, we can't wait to celebrate with you."
• "No gifts needed — truly. But for those who've asked, we've set up a small honeymoon fund."
• "Your love and laughter are all we want on the day. If you'd still like to give, a contribution to our home would be lovely."

How do you say "no boxed gifts" politely?

Thank guests first, then explain why — moving abroad, a small apartment, already having a home. A reason makes the request feel considerate.

• "As we'll be moving overseas after the wedding, we kindly request no boxed gifts."
• "Our home is already full (mostly of books). If you'd like to give, a card or a contribution would be perfect."
• "Your blessings are our gift. We humbly request no boxed gifts, please."

How do you mention shagun or blessings for an Indian wedding?

Shagun — a cash gift in an envelope — is already the norm at many Indian weddings, so you rarely need to ask. Amounts traditionally end in 1, like 101 or 501, because a final 1 is seen as a new beginning rather than an end. What helps now is telling guests who can't attend how to send it.

• "Your blessings are all we seek. For family and friends who can't be with us, details to send shagun are below."
• "Aapka aashirwad hi hamara sabse bada uphaar hai. For those who wish to bless us from afar, our UPI details are below."
• "No gifts, please — only your blessings. If you'd like to send shagun, you can do so by UPI."

Is it okay to share UPI or Interac e-Transfer details?

Yes, on your details page — it's simply the modern envelope, especially for guests overseas. Share one method per country (UPI for India, Interac e-Transfer for Canada), and keep the line as gentle as any other gift wording.

A short note works best:

Blessings & gifts: Your presence is the greatest gift. If you'd still like to send something — UPI: anjali.raghav@okbank · Interac e-Transfer: anjali.raghav@email.com

How do you thank guests for money?

Thank them by name and say what you'll use it for. The amount is optional. See wedding thank-you card wording for examples.

How do gifts and shagun work on a PixerInvite invitation?

PixerInvite invitations have an optional "Blessings & Gifts" section on the invitation page, below your events — not on the card itself. Add a UPI ID (guests get a pay button and a QR code), an Interac e-Transfer email or a gift-registry link. Money goes straight from guests to you in their own banking apps; PixerInvite never receives or handles it. The section is worded gently by default: "Your presence is the greatest gift — if you'd still like to send something, here's how."

Frequently asked questions

Is it rude to ask for money as a wedding gift?

Not if it's worded as a gentle option and kept off the invitation card itself — on your wedding website or details page, or shared by word of mouth.

Where do I put honeymoon fund details?

On your wedding website or invitation details page, with a short line such as "If you'd like to give something, a contribution to our honeymoon would be warmly appreciated."

Why does shagun end in 1?

Traditionally, an amount ending in 1 — like 101 or 501 — is seen as a new beginning rather than an end, and wishes the couple's good fortune to keep growing.

Can I share UPI details for wedding gifts?

Yes, on your details page — it's the modern envelope, especially for guests who can't attend. Keep the wording gentle and optional.

Can guests send shagun or gifts through an invitation on PixerInvite?

Yes. A PixerInvite invitation can show your UPI ID with a pay button and QR code, an Interac e-Transfer email or a registry link in its Blessings & Gifts section. Guests pay you directly in their own apps — PixerInvite never handles the money.

About PixerInvite. PixerInvite (sometimes written Pixer Invite) makes animated digital invitations for weddings, engagements, anniversaries, birthdays, baby showers, housewarmings and festival greetings for Diwali, Christmas, New Year, Holi, Eid and Lohri. Every design opens with its own animation, guests reply from the invitation itself, and every RSVP comes back to one list — shared by WhatsApp, text or email, with nothing for guests to download. See the designs at pixerinvite.com.